In February, we moved from our oceanside gated community with a private cove to a place a little cheaper and closer to our jobs. I snuck Flounder back to his favorite beach there recently. Last year he would frolic and run, the joy clear on his face. This year it is obvious he is getting older. As Prince Eric pointed out to me, in approximate dog years he is 7 years older. He enjoyed the beach and walked along the water's edge with me, but didn't frolic freely. While he's not that old for a smaller dog, he'll be 10 in February, it saddens me that our time with him is probably 3/4 over.
We are aging too. Last September I had surgery to repair my fallopian tubes so that Prince Eric and I could have a child together. It hasn't worked. As I near 42 and Prince Eric 45 (both also next February) I'm losing hope that it will happen but we knew beforehand that our chances weren't real high, I just didn't want to miss the opportunity to try. Prince Eric is putting things into place to return to school to meet his ultimate goal of coaching college softball. I'm expanding my role at work and learning and taking on some new things, which I enjoy.
Melody will be starting her junior year at a different school. While she prefers the smaller charter school she went to last year, it doesn't have the sports program she desires. She also has her first real job working in a local restaurant and is building her bank account. Sebastian is starting his senior year of college and is schooling us on saving the environment. He's looking at post-grad opportunities in the Peace Corps or Ameri-corps.
Overall, this has been a great year of growth for us all. However, I haven't crossed anything off my bucket list in 2014 and the year is more than half over! Maybe I need to add "Win a Sandcastle building contest" . . .

We are not unlike a particularly hardy crustacean. . . With each passage from one stage of human growth to the next we, too, must shed a protective structure. We are left exposed and vulnerable -- but also yeasty and embryonic again, capable of stretching in ways we hadn't known before. These sheddings may take several years or more. Coming out of each passage, though, we enter a longer and more stable period in which we can expect relative tranquility and a sense of equilibrium regained.
Gail Sheehy










